I have had a few conversations recently which have lead back to the question of dreams. It’s odd to say, but I don’t really have any. Growing up, I never dreamt of winning the lotto, my wedding day or travelling the world. And as an adult, when talking with my husband about our future, dreams are noticeably still missing.
I felt uneasy about the idea that I didn’t have any dreams, so I mulled it over until I came up with what I can best describe as dreaming in feelings.
I don’t dream of having a wardrobe full of gorgeous clothes, having a perfectly toned body, or an enormous house (well, occasionally I do dream of living in a stunning Regency house, but only for a moment). For me, the work and time needed to acquire and maintain these is far from ‘dreamy’. But when I think about what I have gained in my life and what I still strive for, it becomes clear that what I dream of is to feel excited, special, loved, entertained and proud.
It is a complete accident that I have managed to find my way to living my life quite close to what these dreams seem to be. It could have turned out quite differently!
As is so easily done, when you’re not consciously working towards something, you stumble your way through each day and take what comes. In a previous professional role, I was working crazy hours, and had steadily taken on more and more responsibility. I was endlessly missing out on all the fun things my friends were doing, and missing out on spending time with my partner.
The job was fantastic, I loved it, but ultimately I wasn’t getting what I wanted. Instead of feeling light, happy and free, I felt tired and stressed. I wasn’t working for money to buy a huge house filled with beautiful things, but rather to pay for weekends away with friends, laughing, eating, drinking and sharing. Working the way I was meant I couldn’t take the time off to have these jolly weekends with my friends!
Thankfully, I received the perfect catalyst to make me pause and realise this situation was happening. One of my besties was finally going to take her long desired trip to New York, and wanted me to join her. I really wanted to go, but my work commitments wouldn’t allow for it - inevitably some changes had to take place. Immediately after my last day, I went to New York for two incredible weeks, and started intentionally adding experiences into my life.
After spending a New Year’s Eve thinking about the things I hadn’t managed to do yet, I created a fun monthly game to ensure by the time I reached the following New Year’s Eve, I would have. Lucky Dip Cards - The Experience Game was born. Every month, either my partner or I would pull out a little note with something to do written on it, then spend the next 30 days doing it. It is a gloriously straightforward concept, made as simple or complex as you want.
Through playing year after year, I have worked out the difference between what makes something exciting and memorable, and what makes something a little same old, same old. And as I’ve described above, I’m all about the feelings, so I have also paid special attention to what woke up the senses.
I have taken this knowledge, and curated 12 impactful, interesting and memorable experiences you can do with your partner or friends. There’s a little bit of everything (culture, foodie, entertainment, personal reflection), all are obtainable, can be adjusted for any budget, and don’t require too much hard work!
You don’t need to quit your job to start adding memorable special experiences to your life. You can carry on blazing a trail at work, and once you’re ready for a bit of you time, to shift the focus onto you and your friends, you simply need to open an envelope and start planning.
If you would like a perfect nudge to experience something special each month, please do pick up your own copy of Lucky Dip Cards, and start feeling excited about life.
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